Thursday, June 19, 2008

Pregnancy pact.

Things certainly have changed since I was in high school. If a girl became pregnant, people talked about her and believe me, the things that were said weren't very nice. Now the media treats a pregnant tummy like a fashion statement. We hear about Angelina's "baby bump" as if, a so called "baby bump" is the in thing.

I think all friends fantasize about getting married and living next door to each other and raising their children together. Who knew that some girls would actually make a "pregnancy pact." This story is very sad and disturbing to me.

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"As summer vacation begins, 17 girls at Gloucester High School are expecting babies — more than four times the number of pregnancies the 1,200-student school had last year. Some adults dismissed the statistic as a blip. Others blamed hit movies like Juno and Knocked Up for glamorizing young unwed mothers. But principal Joseph Sullivan knows at least part of the reason there's been such a spike in teen pregnancies in this Massachusetts fishing town. School officials started looking into the matter as early as October, after an unusual number of girls began filing into the school clinic to find out if they were pregnant. By May, several students had returned multiple times to get pregnancy tests, and on hearing the results, "some girls seemed more upset when they weren't pregnant than when they were," Sullivan says. All it took was a few simple questions before nearly half the expecting students, none older than 16, confessed to making a pact to get pregnant and raise their babies together. Then the story got worse. "We found out one of the fathers is a 24-year-old homeless guy," the principal says, shaking his head.

The question of what to do next has divided this fiercely Catholic enclave. Even with national data showing a 3% rise in teen pregnancies in 2006 — the first increase in 15 years — Gloucester isn't sure it wants to provide easier access to birth control. In any case, many residents worry that the problem goes much deeper. The past decade has been difficult for this mostly white, mostly blue-collar city (pop. 30,000). In Gloucester, perched on scenic Cape Ann, the economy has always depended on a strong fishing industry. But in recent years, such jobs have all but disappeared overseas, and with them much of the community's wherewithal. "Families are broken," says school superintendent Christopher Farmer. "Many of our young people are growing up directionless."

The girls who made the pregnancy pact — some of whom, according to Sullivan, reacted to the news that they were expecting with high fives and plans for baby showers — declined to be interviewed. So did their parents. But Amanda Ireland, who graduated from Gloucester High on June 8, thinks she knows why these girls wanted to get pregnant. Ireland, 18, gave birth her freshman year and says some of her now pregnant schoolmates regularly approached her in the hall, remarking how lucky she was to have a baby. "They're so excited to finally have someone to love them unconditionally," Ireland says. "I try to explain it's hard to feel loved when an infant is screaming to be fed at 3 a.m."

The high school has done perhaps too good a job of embracing young mothers. Sex-ed classes end freshman year at Gloucester, where teen parents are encouraged to take their children to a free on-site day-care center. Strollers mingle seamlessly in school hallways among cheerleaders and junior ROTC. "We're proud to help the mothers stay in school," says Sue Todd, CEO of Pathways for Children, which runs the day-care center.

But by May, after nurse practitioner Kim Daly had administered some 150 pregnancy tests at Gloucester High's student clinic, she and the clinic's medical director, Dr. Brian Orr, a local pediatrician, began to advocate prescribing contraceptives regardless of parental consent, a practice at about 15 public high schools in Massachusetts. Currently Gloucester teens must travel about 20 miles (30 km) to reach the nearest women's health clinic; younger girls have to get a ride or take the train and walk. But the notion of a school handing out birth control pills has met with hostility. Says Mayor Carolyn Kirk: "Dr. Orr and Ms. Daly have no right to decide this for our children." The pair resigned in protest on May 30.

Gloucester's elected school committee plans to vote later this summer on whether to provide contraceptives. But that won't do much to solve the issue of teens wanting to get pregnant. Says rising junior Kacia Lowe, who is a classmate of the pactmakers': "No one's offered them a better option." And better options may be a tall order in a city so uncertain of its future."

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10 comments:

Sharon said...

Rain:
Thanks for post this. It's tremendously sad.

Ella said...

How many of the young ladies come from broken homes?

Ella said...

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Stacee said...

That's really disturbing.
When I was in high school, I knew of 3 girls that got pregnant. This was in 4 years! I can't imagine that many in one year. My, things have changed.

rainlillie said...

It really is a sad story.

Lumina said...

I agree...that alot of times the young girls think they will finally feel loved unconditionally. So sad for both them and the babies when reality sets in. I wanted a baby all of my life (always loved babie) but of course waited until I was older. "Older" in my day was pregnant at 21. (wow...such a baby still) At 21 I was happy sure, in a secure relationship (now married to the man :) ) but wow! I had no idea that somethings just were not "instinctual" like I thought. It was not easy. I can't imagine being a teen.
Thanks for posting/sharing this. I don't watch much news, and had no idea.

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rainlillie said...

I think the movies are a small part of a huge problem. Casual sex in general, is often met with little consequences in our society.

I do believe that parents need to get more involved in the lives of their children and self esteem is very important.

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Calypso said...

High school is in the painfully recent history of my life. At the time this took place, I knew of fourteen pregnant girls, the majority of them being "freshies"--our term for freshmen. It wasn't unusual and none of us thought much of the more than ten girls expecting. My own year had the lowest number of teen pregnancies in our time there, including a set of identical twins. Teen pregnancies is a common occurrence in this town of maybe six to seven thousand residents. It happens.

As someone who went to school during the time this took place, I find that it's insulting to think that someone would suggest that this was a "pact", a plan created between these girls. While I was not one of many young mothers, many of them were girls I knew quite well. It wasn't a pact at all, it was that they did not have access to contraceptives and did not even have a proper education concerning sex. No one gets that unless we end up with the one biology teacher who can teach it (and we can't get into that class until sophomore year and most parents have their children removed from his class due to his controversial ideals). The area where I am from is similar to the area these girls have grown up in. While we are not heavily Catholic, this town has at least two Southern Baptist churches on every street, or so it seems. This place is extremely conservative, but the administrators in our school (the same size as the Gloucester high school in question) have never come up with such a silly notion as a "pregnancy pact".

It's unfortunate but it's a direct result of the current society of this country. Without a proper education in all areas, including sex and all that is connected to it, girls can be drawn into the society that makes sex look cool. The problem is that neither she nor he has the proper knowledge or access to contraceptives. Without that, the number of teen pregnancies is only going to rise.

And it's going to be worse in these charming small towns that are, tragically, the dirty underbelly of the shiny American life.